We’ve been back in America for a month now and it’s been a weird transition. Though this is my third time coming back home from overseas, it is no less strange. America is a foreign land all over again. Publix is overwhelming. Driving is a pain that I forgot existed. Not living out of a bag and packing it up every 2 days is strange. The cost of things are shocking. You even forget simple things, like actually understanding the language around you. I had forgotten so much about America but, more than that, I found the concept of “being back home” far stranger. It was an adjustment.
Yet all that “adjusting” has paled in comparison to the simple shock of just “being home.” That is the hardest thing to deal with. And when travelers talk about adjusting to coming home, we almost always are talking about this – the transition from traveler and life on the road back into your old life. It’s a lot harder than transitioning into travel.
Home is wonderful but it feels very different and, in some ways, no longer home. You’ve changed. You are different but life back home isn’t. Often times it feels like it was frozen while you were away only to defrost right when you return.
One of my friends asked me a question last week that I want to answer. She asked, “Why would you leave a life that most people long for to come back to Florida?”
In other words, are we giving up our dream to settle for something less than amazing? In looking at it from many people’s standpoint, I can see where that would seem to be the case. Actually it couldn’t be further from the truth.
What shifted for us was realizing that we couldn’t easily continue this gypsy lifestyle outside of North America and realize much bigger dreams we have. We have dreams we’ve left on the back burner but has never died or got cold.
As a matter of fact, while traveling it heated up – dramatically. While in New Zealand we discussed our future and what type of family we wanted. We began to spend nights discussing details of how we would want to raise a child and the morals we would instill. Another instance was when we were staying in a hostel in Portugal we met a man named Ricardo. An entrepreneur. He was just starting his business as a hostel owner and was giving us advice on how to be successful. He gave us positive encouragement and realistic facts.
So we were faced with the question: Do we continue doing what were doing? It was in many ways an ideal life, for sure.
OR, do we step up to the plate and create our biggest dreams, which goes way beyond what we are currently doing?
This meant coming back to Florida. I assure you that we tossed and turned many a night over this dilemma.
We feel the fear just like many of you do as you make the tough decisions – do you do what you know in your heart of hearts and soul of souls that you are here to do or do you continue to stay in your comfort zone? Do you step up or do you make excuses as to all the reasons why you can’ t really show up in a big way?
Well, we decided to go for it! Yes there will be sacrifices, but there is no way of reaching goals like ours without putting in the work.
After our year of self discovery, we came away with tons of rewarding benefits. We understand ourselves more, are less afraid to take risks, and allow ourselves to make more mistakes. Ultimately, we have decided that we want to be around the people that know and love us best and build our future family around those people. I always talk about how travel has made us better people, but I think it has also made us a better parent to our future child. In the end, we want to make these sacrifices so that we can create the best opportunities for our unborn child.
As our plane landed in Orlando all the memories of our travel was like a glimpse from the sublime, and the scenes filled me with both awe and contentment. I have never been more grateful in my life.
The world we have grown used to was about to be swept, yet again, out from under our feet. If there is one thing I’ve learned while abroad, it’s that perspective is something we can change at any time and in all circumstances.With a little shift in thought, I can see that our return to the U.S. will be as adventure-laden as our departure.