Why We Stopped Traveling

We’ve been back in America for a month now and it’s been a weird transition. Though this is my third time coming back home from overseas, it is no less strange.  America is a foreign land all over again. Publix is overwhelming. Driving is a pain that I forgot existed. Not living out of a bag and packing it up every 2 days is strange. The cost of things are shocking. You even forget simple things, like actually understanding the language around  you. I had forgotten so much about America but, more than that, I found the concept of “being back home” far stranger. It was an adjustment.

Yet all that “adjusting” has paled in comparison to the simple shock of just “being home.” That is the hardest thing to deal with. And when travelers talk about adjusting to coming home, we almost always are talking about this – the transition from traveler and life on the road back into your old life. It’s a lot harder than transitioning into travel.  

Home is wonderful but it feels very different and, in some ways, no longer home. You’ve changed. You are different but life back home isn’t. Often times it feels like it was frozen while you were away only to defrost right when you return.

One of my friends asked me a question last week that I want to answer. She asked, “Why would you leave a life that most people long for to come back to Florida?”

In other words, are we giving up our dream to settle for something less than amazing? In looking at it from many people’s standpoint, I can see where that would seem to be the case. Actually it couldn’t be further from the truth.

First of all, amazing lives change structure and format. I guarantee you that what you define as “amazing” today will not necessarily be amazing five or ten years from now. You will have evolved and so will your definition of amazing. That is what has happened for us.
Living out of two bags and staying in various places around the world is in fact glamorous, but sometimes very challenging. You begin to miss having your own bed, an income, and a space to call your own. However, the reason for coming back to Florida earlier this month goes way deeper.

What shifted for us was realizing that we couldn’t easily continue this gypsy lifestyle outside of North America and realize much bigger dreams we have. We have dreams we’ve left on the back burner but has never died or got cold.

As a matter of fact, while traveling it heated up – dramatically. While in New Zealand we discussed our future and what type of family we wanted. We began to spend nights discussing details of how we would want to raise a child and the morals we would instill. Another instance was when we were staying in a hostel in Portugal we met a man named Ricardo. An entrepreneur. He was just starting his business as a hostel owner and was giving us advice on how to be successful. He gave us positive encouragement and realistic facts.

So we were faced with the question: Do we continue doing what were doing? It was in many ways an ideal life, for sure. 

OR, do we step up to the plate and create our biggest dreams, which goes way beyond what we are currently doing? 

This meant coming back to Florida. I assure you that we tossed and turned many a night over this dilemma. 

We feel the fear just like many of you do as you make the tough decisions – do you do what you know in your heart of hearts and soul of souls that you are here to do or do you continue to stay in your comfort zone? Do you step up or do you make excuses as to all the reasons why you can’ t really show up in a big way?

Well, we decided to go for it! Yes there will be sacrifices, but there is no way of reaching goals like ours without putting in the work.

 

After our year of self discovery, we came away with tons of rewarding benefits. We understand ourselves more, are less afraid to take risks, and allow ourselves to make more mistakes. Ultimately, we have decided that we want to be around the people that know and love us best and build our future family around those people. I always talk about how travel has made us better people, but I think it has also made us a better parent to our future child. In the end, we want to make these sacrifices so that we can create the best opportunities for our unborn child. 

As our plane landed in Orlando all the memories of our travel was like a glimpse from the sublime, and the scenes filled me with both awe and contentment. I have never been more grateful in my life.

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The world we have grown used to was about to be swept, yet again, out from under our feet. If there is one thing I’ve learned while abroad, it’s that perspective is something we can change at any time and in all circumstances.With a little shift in thought, I can see that our return to the U.S. will be as adventure-laden as our departure.

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8 responses to “Why We Stopped Traveling

  1. Even with you home, I hope this blog continues. I look forward to seeing you continue to grow, and your family. As a person who also loves travel, know that it is possible with a child. Liam is three and been to five countires. Start small! The things that my family now explores are different then when I was a solo travler or a partnership with my husband, however I am happy because I am still traveling. Enjoy working and saving, and set those goals! They can be reached. XOXO-Desiray

  2. You guys have so many wonderful adventures left. I hope you continue to write about them and share. If you ever want to travel *in* America, you've got a room in Albuquerque.

  3. Thanks Desiray! I certainly plan on keeping up the travel and the blog. You are definitely an inspiration as a traveling family! I appreciate your positive feedback. 🙂 Hope all is well with your family and I enjoy seeing your updates!Charity

  4. Great perspective, bittersweet! We are 12 weeks into our travels and go through these emotions everyday. Taking a step away from home is just as scary as making the decision to come home. – Kristina and Josh (the Newlywed Nomads)

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